I'm clean. Had a pee test yesterday!
I think you need a PID controller. It takes voltage in and controls the servo motor. I guess you have to have a way to convert rpm into voltage, Hmmm, I have no business posting here but know one else was helping so what the heck.
I'm not sure using rpm to loop into a stepper motor to control water flow is the best way anyways. Take a look at the ADL from Depac. From the few e-mails I have sent to him I don't think his system loops, It must to set the starting RPM but from there I believe it will open the valve the same way for Evey test. You would have to ask him. If I had not lost my emails from him, or I would post them, sorry. Again I have no business posting on something I know so little about.
I'll shut up now.
Nick
P.S. If you have not seen the videos of the ADL in action you should take a look on his site.